As a 27 year old person who has been single for a solid three years but is still subscribed to this sub because who knows, I should probably work at not dying alone... I'm a bit bewildered at the quantity and quality of these ghosting posts. Some people think it's the worst thing you can do to a person you're seeing, that it exposes toxic traits, self-obsession, and immaturity. Others think we don't owe anyone anything. Others think it's a person-by-person basis and it staves away harassment and potential harm. All of which seems valid to me.
My main question is this: ***at what stage is it considered ghosting?*** If I match with you on a dating app, and I drop off the conversation and never reply... is that ghosting? If I do that after the first, second, third date... is that ghosting? Is it only when I disappear on an established relationship?
It appears that we're all operating on a definition on our heads based on some personal experience. I'm proposing a poll to clarify this sub's position on the matter.
***__Of course, this is stupid. It's all stupid. Life is stupid.__***
Obviously, there are varying degrees of ghosting. We've heard of stories where people stop replying on dating apps... and people who've had spouses disappear into the wind. Obviously, the spouse disappearing is ghosting. The people who don't reply on dating apps is debatable. I've set this to only allowing one choice since I want to see a semi-clear delineation of where the line starts in the Reddit hive mind. Allowing for multiple choices has the potential to obscure intention. And besides- if you're voting for all the options, you probably need to get a thicker skin. Someone not replying to your Tinder messages is not in the same category as a spouse disappearing on you. Consequently: __***vote on the "least offensive" one to you that still constitutes ghosting in your mind's eye.***__
Happy voting. If this gains any traction at all, we'll see just how pissy people get.
Your vote: When a person purposefully disappears on a marriage